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Writer's pictureHannah Ayers

Don't be THAT girl

Relationships are complicated enough, so adding a third party into the mix won’t make it any easier on anyone. Being the other person in someone’s love triangle will only make you have lifelong trust issues and insecurities.


Why would anyone want to be the other woman or man? Chances are someone is unhappy in their relationship so they turn to someone new to help excite them and get a “spark” from someone other than their partner. But why would you want to be that person for someone who’s not single? Chances are they will tell you all the right things you want to hear, such as they love you, they’ll break up with their partner for you, and you are the one they want to be with. .. All LIES! They don’t love you, they love the opportunity they have with you, and that’s all you are to them an opportunity. You will only give them what they are lacking within themselves and their relationship for a small period of time. Don’t let yourself be the opportunity.


So let me ask you this… if they are willing to cheat with you… what makes you think they won’t cheat on you? If you think you found the “perfect person” and that person ISN’T single then they aren’t the “perfect” one for you. The person who strays out of their relationship to be with someone other than their partner doesn’t deserve you and they definitely do not deserve their partner. If you have to sneak to do it, then you shouldn’t be doing it. If you can’t tell your parents, your friends, or your church family about them… you shouldn’t be with them. Don’t allow it, you deserve better, so don’t settle or love someone who isn’t yours.


Know your worth and respect yourself enough to not be involved with someone who is not single. If you truly know your worth and know what you have to offer in a relationship you won’t want to be with someone who isn’t all about you. Even though it takes two to cheat and sneak around chances are they aren’t going to leave their relationship for you and you will end up with the bad name. So don’t get involved with someone who has to sneak to be with you in the first place, you deserve so much more. You deserve someone who can take you on dates, be seen with you in public, and show you off. Not someone who hides you and deletes your number before they are with their partner.


And then there’s the one who is an intentional tramp… if you KNOW they are in a relationship but you still pursue it… you deserve the consequences for which will eventually come to you. If you intentionally go out of your way to ruin a relationship because you think you all will last and live happily ever after, you are wrong. They will only give you false hope that eventually they will leave their partner for you. IT'S ALL LIES!! No real true love starts through cheating, lies, and lust. They will not be happy with you, eventually you’ll have them, but they will be looking for their next person to sneak around with behind your back. They will eventually get bored with you too, you aren’t special and I doubt you are the only one.


Truthfully, it’s not that hard to leave people alone who are in relationships. If someone in a relationship "hits you up” then save their partner more heartache and “hit them up” and tell them what type of person they are with instead of letting them look like a fool. Help each other out, have other girls’ backs, break the cycle and respect yourself enough to not involve yourself in a love triangle. Because I promise you they probably won’t leave their relationship for you, and if they do, then you’ll be next. If they do it with you they’ll do it to you. Always remember that. Don’t be that girl.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Luke 6:31

Hebrews 13:4


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