I know we have all heard the same three types of excuses at some point… Too Busy, Bad Timing, and Maybe… there are several more I know we’ve all heard and been told, BUT these are the three I want to specifically talk about and break down for you. Here lately I have had my friends reach out to me for advice on this situation. So me being the friend that everyone turns to for advice I figured I'd express my opinion on these specific excuses...
“Too Busy”
In life yes, there will come a point where you are very busy, you will not have the same amount of time you once had when you were in high school, college, etc. BUT…. BUT, no one is ever “too busy” for the things they want in life, and what they consider to be important. That being said, if a guy or girl tells you they are “too busy” they might truly be, the first time give them a pass, but be on your guard and watch and see if this becomes a pattern. If it starts to turn into they are “too busy” every week or weekend... they are just giving you this excuse. They aren’t really “too busy” they are just not interested and do not want to spend their free time with you. Unfortunately, no one wants to ever hear that or come to terms with that, but it’s the harsh truth. They are not interested in you. If they want to spend time with you, trust me they would find time, if you are important to them you would know. They would not make you question where you stand. This excuse always gets under my skin, simply because I think it’s a copout excuse for I have time, just not time for you. So, like I said watch and see if this starts to turn into a pattern. If it’s a continuing thing, open your eyes and see it for what it is… they have time, they just don’t want to spend their time with you.
“Bad Timing”
How does anyone truly know when is a good time or bad time for anything in life. Time is precious, time is valuable, and time is something you never get back. In my opinion timing is everything. You can’t fully live life if you are questioning the timing of every situation. If someone tells you it’s a bad time for them, they may be telling you the truth, but truthfully how does anyone really know that. That’s their way of telling you they aren’t willing to put in effort. They aren’t willing to take the time and put the effort you are into the relationship. Bottom line, no one knows when is a good time or bad time to get into a relationship… they just know they aren’t willing to put their effort and energy into one to make it work at that time. Time, is precious. We can never turn back time, live for the moment. Be with someone who wants to live in the moment with you by their side.
“Maybe”
This excuse especially gets me fired up… if you are like me you don’t like to hear anything but a yes or no answer. When I get the “maybe” answer I get all salty. What does it truly mean when someone tells you “maybe” or “we will see” instead of yes or no... WELL, maybe means “maybe we can if I don’t end up with a better option.” Nine times out of ten when you get the maybe answer the plans never end up working out, they end up fizzling away and never happening. Not saying this always the case because like I said nine times out of ten though, this is how it goes. If someone is telling you maybe and your gut is already trying to tell you something is off. I promise you things are off. Don’t wait by your phone for them to finally make up their mind and spend time with you because they didn’t have something better come up. If they continue to tell you, maybe every time you all try to make plans… your gut is telling you to run before you get anymore attached to someone who is NOT interested in you.
Bottom line relationships are complicated enough… they get even more complicated once someone starts putting excuses into the mix. If they start throwing excuses at you especially these three specific ones, open your eyes and realize chances are they aren’t willing to put time and effort into you to make it work in the first place. There are over seven billion people in this world… quit allowing ANYONE to tell you excuses for why they don’t have time to see you, call you, talk to you, be with you. There is someone who WILL stop making excuses for you, there is someone who WILL change plans for you, make you a priority, and remind you that you are important to them. If they aren’t, then chances are you may want to take a step back and analyze your relationship. Know your worth, don’t allow anyone to treat you less than you deserve. I'm telling you all exactly what I told my friend, no matter who you are, girl or boy, don’t EVER put up with excuses from anyone, especially when there is someone out there who would move mountains for you.
There was a woman I liked back in 2013 that used the excuse, "My work schedule changed at the last minute."