The Never Ending Questions

When are you going to get married?

When are you going to move out?

When are you going to get your big girl job?

When do you want to have kids?

When are you going to finally do things like other people are your age?

These are the questions here lately I cannot escape from. No matter how hard I try to keep these from coming up, they ALWAYS do. If you are like me, these are the questions I simply do NOT have the answers to. I do not know when I will get my “Big Girl Job”, I do not know when I will move out on my own, I do not know when I will finally settle down with someone. What I DO KNOW is it is OKAY to simply respond to these questions with a “WHEN I’M READY TO”.

Anymore I feel that we live in a world and society that once you graduate from college or reach a certain age all of these questions are supposed to be answered immediately. But Why? Why, do we put such a pressure on these questions? Why do we add that extra unneeded stress onto ourselves? Why do we judge people who do not have these questions answered?

Growing up I had all these goals, time frames, expectations for what I “wanted” my life to look like. But... Stuff happens. Things change. People change. You hit bumps along the way. So, it’s okay to be single at 24, it’s okay to not have that “Big Girl Job”, and it’s okay to not be like everyone else your age. IT IS OKAY. Be yourself. Do what makes you happy and never steer from that. Never lose yourself trying to please others and gain acceptance. All these questions will one day be able to be answered when God wants them to. You do not have to be like everyone else. Just because others have their “Big Girl Job” and you don’t doesn’t mean you failed, it doesn’t mean they are better than you. It simply means it’s just not your time yet. Just because people around you are getting married/engaged and you are single doesn’t mean you are unlovable and not worthy of that. It just simply means your person is out there and God is still preparing them for you. AND just because you haven’t moved out into the real world on your own yet does not mean you are pathetic and scared. It simply means you are being financially smart and taking a positive advantage of being able to stay home for as long as possible.

So… the next time these questions get brought up around you, and trust me they will, remember the positive behind your response of “when I am ready to.” There is absolutely nothing wrong with not having all your ducks in a row like everyone else. Be yourself, be kind, and stay true to you and I promise you one day everything will fall into place when God knows you are ready for it.