Everyone says they are your ex for a reason and that is as real and true as it gets. For me though I’m very thankful for my ex which is something you do not hear often. Some may ask “how could you be thankful for that”. Truth is we should all be thankful for our ex’s they teach us so much about ourselves that we never knew before. My ex taught me four amazing things and I will forever be thankful for it, without that taking place I never would’ve realized how brave or how strong I am, nor how much worth I have to offer or how much love I truly have to give, so these are the things our ex’s in my opinion teach us…
Bravery
Because of having to walk away from someone that I saw as my significant other but also as my best friend, I had to realize some paths are better walked alone, and you have to be brave enough to walk away from those who don’t bring light into our life. You must be brave enough to leave. You must be brave in the new process of being alone and knowing that you can do it. Bravery is found in many ways but I found it in myself when my life was turned upside down. I’m now able to say I was brave enough to leave and love myself more.
Strength
You never really realize how strong you are until that’s the only choice you have left to do… Strength... Everyone in my eyes that have ever walked away from anyone who tore them apart and chose to love themselves more, you are full of so much strength. You never truly think you can be alone and you never truly think you can move on in life without that person, but that’s all wrong. You have to be a little selfish to realize you have to walk away, not because you didn’t love that person but because you have to love yourself more. Walking away, that takes Strength.
Worth
You learn real quick how you deserve so much more, and are worth more love and kindness than you were ever given. The right person for you will see your worth and be thankful to have you in their life, they will show you off, constantly remind you how much you mean to them, and make you realize you are a great person and no one can take that away from you. Ex’s clearly don’t see our worth BUT the right man will. All individuals deserve respect, loyalty, and love if you give that to someone and they can’t give it in return something is wrong with them not you, remember that.
Love
Love… this is such a powerful word, with such an amazing meaning. Learning that you can love someone so much and that still not be enough for them to treat you poorly, you must then to learn to put yourself first. You need to love yourself and respect yourself first before EVER attempting to love someone else. You have to be selfish sometimes when it comes to love and relationship. You can over look some situations but not all. Once the loyalty and trust has been shaken, you have to put your heart above all. No one deserves to give their heart away to someone who does not deserve it and appreciate it for what it is. Guard your heart, and love always. You can love anyone but sometimes you just have to love yourself first and love those individuals from a far. We accept the love we think we deserve, so love yourself first, sometimes the best and only option is to put your heart and yourself first.
Learning all these things about myself, helped me grow and helped me realize more about myself than I never knew. If you are someone who has faced these same changes and the same growth within yourself, or maybe this was just the read you needed after a break up, take it from someone whose life got turned upside down in a sec. It gets better. You find a better love. You find someone who appreciates your love. But above all things you find you.
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